By Victoria Kernen
Being a millennial means having almost everything at your disposal via touch screen ” even dating.
Among the dating sites available today, Tinder is this generation’s favorite way of meeting people. It is an easy platform to navigate: when the user swipes left or right, it matches two users who share mutual attraction.
But is Tinder an organic addition to the dating world? Not quite.
There used to be magic when dating someone new. People would meet through friends, family, school or work. Occasionally, people would meet randomly in a coffee shop. One glance was all it took.
Subsequently, the dating process would begin. Two people would go out a couple of times before deciding if a relationship was worth pursuing.
This process of dating was common not too long ago; however, with the rise of technology, interpersonal interactions have slowly become a thing of the past. The world of dating has evolved to fit a world consumed by social media.
Today, a person could be too busy on Tinder to look up and notice that he or she could have a connection with someone in front of him or her. It seems that the creators of Tinder took advantage of technology addiction by giving users another reason to keep their eyes glued to a screen.
It also seems like there’s a change in social norms.
According to Laura Waxmann in “Generation Tinder: Online But Hardly Connecting” for Mission Local, society no longer seek for longevity. Instead, society seeks for convenience and a confidence boost from a never-ending list of eligible, young singles.
Instead of going out with the intention of meeting new people, millennials have taken upon themselves to stay indoors and browse for dates on their smartphones.
Tinder trains young adults to think in a mindset where finding a one-night stand is more favorable than finding a relationship. The dating app also trains users to be less empathetic towards others since a swipe to the left turns down a person without confrontation.
It seems that people no longer have the time to consider each other’s feelings.
A friend of mine was a Tinder user before meeting her current boyfriend. (No, she did not meet this lucky guy on Tinder.) She never took the app seriously in terms of finding “the right one.”
She would talk to five guys at once when she had time to kill. The next day, she would find a new batch to talk to.
Eventually, she mentioned to me that she liked it when men found her attractive on the app, as it made her feel good about herself.
When I asked if she would go out with one of the guys she met on Tinder, she brushed the question aside.
In a society being furiously swept up by social media and narcissism, Tinder is only contributing to the problem.
As someone who did not meet her significant other on an online site, heed my warning: when it comes to using Tinder, or any other dating website for that matter, always swipe left.
Courtesy of Tinder
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